The Top Two skills that distinguish outstanding engineers from average engineers are:


Between stimulus and response there is a space.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
— Victor Frankl

What if I could tell you that you can train yourself to increase the space between stimulus and response? What if it would help you make better decisions, communicate better, focus more, and become a better leader? What if it could potentially save or make your career?

Engineer-turned-Emotional Intelligence coach Gab Ciminelli understands that one of engineer’s most challenging areas is communication. It’s the ability to convey ideas, work well in teams, influence others and build trust. Engineers are often misunderstood or seen as uncommunicative, sometimes “difficult” people when we are actually very passionate and positive about our ideas and methods. This often causes anxieties about others and ourselves. As a result, engineers often jeopardize their careers.




What Distinguishes the Best Engineers?


According to research at Google, 4 of the top 6 competencies that distinguish the best engineers from the average engineers are Emotional Competencies. Here is the list:

  1. Strong achievement drive and high achievement standards

  2. Ability to influence

  3. Conceptual thinking

  4. Analytical ability

  5. Initiative in taking on new challenges

  6. Self-confidence

In the past, we used IQ to predict top test scores and results. A high EQ can predict success in social and emotional situations. As such, when emotional intelligence was first developed, sales people caught-on to the idea that it would be useful in helping them read other people’s emotions and signals. Recently, emotional intelligence has become more important than IQ in attaining success, and people from all walks of life are considering training and coaching to help them.

At the Silent Leadership Institute, we take the first step in training to focus on attention. The way we train your attention is with “mindfulness meditation.”

“Mindfulness is paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.” -Jon Kabat-Zinn

Just as with any muscle training, emotional intelligence can be trained and mindfulness to improve attention and self awareness is something that can be made stronger with practice, over time. Once it becomes strong, it leads to calmness and clarity that forms the basis of emotional intelligence.

We also pay attention to shift the focus on our bodies. Every emotion has a correlation to something in the human body. Every emotional experience is not just a psychological experience, it’s also a physiological experience. If performed correctly, you can nourish your body by becoming a master of your emotions.

Training Flow and Delivery Options

We have various customized options and delivery options to train Emotional Intelligence. Our training has been carefully designed and tested in large global organizations and receives high praise. The model we use is:

  1. Self Awareness

    Ability to accurately perceive your own emotions in the moment and the impact they have on people.

  2. Self Management

    Impact when you act – or do not act. How your drive your flexibility and direct your behavior in a positive way.

  3. Social Awareness

    Ability to recognize and understand how others are feeling. Ability to reflect on those feelings before responding in social situations.

  4. Social Management

     Ability to build rapport and connect with people through skills such as active listening, verbal and nonverbal communication.

Training Program

Module 1: Introduction

What is emotional intelligence; the science that supports it; benefits of a mindfulness meditation practice and how it will support your career.

Module 2: Mindfulness

Attention training and moving from sub-conscious process to awareness.

Module 3: Self Awareness

Expanding meditation practice to walking, eating, and building self-confidence.

Module 4: Self Management

Using self-awareness to gain mastery over our emotions. Practices and procedures to try for better self management. Understanding motivation.

Module 5: Social Awareness

Practicing empathy, active listening and organizational awareness

Module 6: Social Management

Compassion, handling difficult conversations and diversity awareness.


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